Monday, July 29, 2013

Quiet Time Please!

I have fought tooth and nail and denied that my 4 year old is ready to quit naps.

I have lost this battle and have been trying to be able to adjust and help him adjust to staying in his room for quiet time instead of nap time.

We started out with 2 hours of quiet/ nap time when he was still falling asleep about 4 out of 7 days.  Once he stopped sleeping at all, I cut it to 1 hour.  I have had a really hard time getting him to stay in his room and quiet time has not been quiet or peaceful for either of us!

He has a clock in his room and I would tell him when the first number turns to a 2 he can come down.  He found every excuse to come out and even denied that he knew his numbers and said he didn't know if it was a 2.

It was very stressful for both of us and something had to give.  I need quiet time in the middle of the day to work on my homework so that the only time I have isn't after 9 pm when I am exhausted from the day.  He needs quiet time because he gets really grumpy if he doesn't have time to himself, just like me!

I googled it and came up with a few different things.  I am sorry, but I cannot remember where I read it, but one main thing was to give him 2 to 3 items or toys to play with that he chooses.  The next thing was to set an alarm for him so he knew when to come out.  I had originally fought this one thinking that what if he did actually fall asleep and the alarm woke him up (wishful thinking).  The last thing was to not get upset with him if he comes out a little early and just explain it is quiet time and that his alarm will go off when it is time.

We are on our 4th day without any arguments or incidents and here is what I did.

I had been turning off his light and treating quiet time as nap time, doing nap time books and the same routine we have done for the past 4 years.  This was the first change I made.  I open his blinds to let the sun in, turn on his light, and put in one of his kid CDs to listen to while he plays.

The next thing that I do is let him pick 2 or 3 things.  His favorites have been things that he can't play with around the baby.  He has picked Legos for 3 days and he has some connector type sets that he has chosen.  I explain to him that these are the only things he can play with and to make sure that they are the ones he wants.

He has one of our old iPhones that he plays letter tracing games and Angry Birds (yes, I know he shouldn't play too many games like that but I limit his time).  I set the alarm on his phone so that it will go off an hour after I leave his room.

So far these simple changes have made a huge difference in our quiet times and I am excited that I might not have to battle him anymore over him playing quietly for an hour!

Do you do quiet time?


  1. So happy that you have found some common ground, it feels good as a parent to be able to find a suitable solution to any issue when dealing with the lil ones. All of mine are at the tween/teen stage, so they tend to occupy themselves mostly, but on occasion, I am certainly ready for their bedtime, to get my own quiet. :) Thanks so much for stopping by This Momma's Meandering Mondays. Have a wonderful week!

    1. Thanks for stopping in. It is hard to find a balance sometimes and it does feel really good to be able to do it and relieve the frustration we are both feeling.


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