For awhile I was really good at ignoring him when he threw them and just walking away, but I started responding to them way too much when I had the baby. I think I respond more because I have 2 babies who are talking, or crying, or screaming all at the same time and I just want it to stop. Or maybe it is because he is so loud when he throws his fits that if the baby is sleeping he wakes him up.
So far today he has thrown about 20 tantrums (only a slight exaggeration!). I told him last night at bedtime that from now on when he throws a tantrum, whatever he is throwing it about, he will not get or the toy will be taken away for the day.
One example from today is a blanket that we all use in the living room. He likes it a lot because it is fluffy. The baby lay down on it today and he immediately started a tantrum. I took the blanket and put it in the ottoman and told him that he lost it for the day. He proceeded to scream and throw himself all over the place and I just ignored him and played with the babies. His fit got louder and more dramatic until he realized I still wasn't paying attention and he finally stopped and started playing with us. I pretended like he didn't even throw the fit.
I have already seen a difference in his tantrums and how frequently and less loud they are and it has only been a half of a day. This is something I will have to constantly work on because as soon as he gets a reaction, he knows he will get it again.
For all of you who have fit throwers living with them, IGNORE them and STAY CALM and they will stop! I know it is easier said than done, but if I can do it, anybody can!
Hope you have a tantrum free day!